CHEATERS

The woman tried to push the security guard aside so that she could get inside the building. The security guard pleaded with her and told her that he cannot allow her to enter the building. The woman was relentless. She tried to shove the security guard for the second time.

"Please let me get inside. This man has made me and the children suffer for such a long time. I want to see him." the woman shouted. 

"Madam, I can't allow you to get inside," the guard pleaded with her.

"Why are you protecting him? Do you know what I have gone through with this man?" the woman said. The poor guard looked at the gathering crowd in desperation. It was evident this is not what he was trained to handle. Preventing an employee's estranged wife from entering the work place to beat up the husband was something that he was probably doing for the first time. 

This incident happened at one of the corporate buildings in Ndola. It was early in the morning around 07:30 hours and it was on Monday. 

"What's going on here," I asked the newspaper vendor who was selling newspapers near the entrance to the building. 

"Her man hasn't been home from Friday." the newspaper vendor told me with a huge smile on his face. "Bwafya mudala."

I would have loved to see how this was going to end but I was rushing to the office.  My guess was that it did not end up very well for the husband. The woman was poised to cause confusion so that his husband's infidelity could be seen by everyone. He may have been given a torrid time even by his superiors for dragging domestic issues to the workplace.  

The woman surely had no choice but to go and pluck him from his workplace because after spending the whole weekend away from home, the man still had to report for work. This was probably not the first time he had slept outside his matrimonial house.

This woman was not bad looking. This is one thing that I have noticed with cheaters. Most of them leave their beautiful wives and opt to go out with not so good looking women and they all give a silly excuse "She takes good care of me more than my wife does."

This has become a universal lie. We hear this lie told over and over on TV including on programs like Jerry Springer and Cheaters.   

Alright, maybe with some men, this could be true. We cannot  rule out the possibility that some women fail to sexually please their husbands. Some men confide with friends even before they are caught cheating that their wives are not giving them what they want sexually. 

Take for instance this newly married 28 year old man who posted on a Facebook page seeking for advice. "I am married just for 2 months and my wife is telling me that I demand for too much sex from her. Where can I go? She has made it clear that it is one day per week for me to have sex. I am starving." 

The responses to this man's complaint were overwhelming and many people felt that the woman was not being fair. It is normal to feel sorry for this guy but would it be justifiable if he started sleeping away from home if he found a woman who can give him sex as much as he wanted? 

Many prostitutes know that men like sex so when a married man goes after them, they assume he is "starving" and so they will give him all the best sex they can think of so that he can come back again. 

A few years ago I witnessed the following incident. It was Saturday morning, around 10:00 hrs. I had just paid for my DSTV subscription and decided that before I go home,  I should check out my friends at "the Club" and play a game of pool. 

We were about fifteen people and all of us were men except for one woman who was at the counter in the company of two men. One of the men was sitting on the bar stool with the woman standing between his legs. It was all lovey dovey but at the same time evident that the woman was a prostitute. Her skin was bleached and she was drank.

From the look of things, they must have spent the whole night at a Night Club. Then the man's phone rang. He looked at the caller I.D  on the screen, said something to his friend and handed the phone to him. The  friend went outside with the phone for about 2 minutes before he came back.

After 3 minutes, the phone rang again. The man gave the phone to his friend again who went outside to answer it. This went on for about 4 times in a space of 30 minutes and many of us in the bar started noticing that something was wrong. 

Then all of a sudden, a beautiful woman, wearing a citenge wrap-around and a white top walked in. This woman's entry attracted the attention of everyone present. Everyone stopped talking as she walked to the counter where the two men and the prostitute were sitting.

"Who is she?" the woman asked the man. Luckily for him, the prostitute was not standing between his legs any more but was standing next to him. The man looked surprised and just gulped and swallowed spit as he saw his wife. He was not expecting her to walk in like that. It was a typical scene from a Cheaters episode only that this time there were no cameras following the woman.

Then something amazing happened. A guy just comes out of nowhere. He grabs the prostitute and slaps her lightly in the face. He then drags her out of the bar while shouting at her. "How many times have I told you not to talk to strangers bitch? Do you know this man you were talking to? Come on let's go home. That's why I don't like moving with you cos you don't have manners." 

This caused the man at the counter to gain some courage.  He told the wife a fake story of how his car had broken down and they couldn't leave it in the night. Then  in the morning they called someone to fix it. The wife wasn't convinced but she was not sure of what to do because of the awkwardness of the situation. She just asked her husband to go with her home. 

Five minutes later, the guy who had whisked the prostitute outside came back inside with the man who was caught by the wife. The man thanked him and gave him a K50.00 for saving his day. Apparently, the man who had slapped the prostitute did not even know her. He told us he just saw an opportunity to make a little money. 

To crown it all, the prostitute came back. Someone asked her, "My sister, so that man was not yours?"

"So what?" she replied sarcastically, "after all we have concluded all the transactions." 


Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici, freedigitalphotos.net